What do you want to do with your life?

"What do you want to do with your life?"

It's the question we all get asked, especially as we leave school. But for many of us, the answer isn’t clear. When I left school, I didn’t have a clue. I felt pressure to have it figured out, and it made me feel like something was wrong with me.

Everyone seemed to be moving forward, choosing careers, and making progress. Meanwhile, I was left wondering what the hell I wanted to do.

Growing up, there was this expectation from my family and society that I should have everything figured out early on. My parents worked hard, and I always felt that the same work ethic had to be present in me.

People would constantly ask, “What are you going to do with your life?” and every time, I’d feel the pressure of needing to have an answer.

Deep down, I was still figuring it out. Was I supposed to follow the traditional route or forge my own path? The weight of those expectations made me feel like I was constantly letting people down, even though I was still on my own journey of discovery.

I chased interests that fascinated me—personal training, building, door knocking, network marketing—but I always felt like I was falling behind. There was this underlying fear that if I didn’t figure it out soon, I'd lose my chance at success.

Society often pushes this idea that success comes from sticking with one thing, grinding away, and becoming an expert. But what happens when you're unsure what you want?

When you switch careers, it feels like a step back. I’ve had that feeling constantly over the last 15 years.

Every time I moved from one role to the next, I thought I was losing ground. It wasn’t just a career shift—it felt like I was losing my identity.

The frustration of not knowing where I was headed hit hard, especially when I looked at my friends advancing in their careers. It impacted my confidence, my relationships, and even my mental health.

I questioned myself constantly: “Am I falling behind? Am I building something, or am I wasting time?”

One defining moment for me came during a conversation with a mentor. They told me, "Lachlan, every experience you're having is preparing you for something bigger. You may not see it now, but trust the process."

That conversation stuck with me, and although it didn’t immediately remove the doubt, it gave me a different perspective.

I realised that every role—whether it was personal training, network marketing, or construction—was teaching me a valuable lesson I could carry forward.

And now, after years of working for myself, I’m still asking the question: “Am I doing enough?” Yes, I love what I do, but sometimes I get stuck between helping people with fitness or with mindset.

I know I can help, but when you’re unsure which direction to take your business, it impacts your earning potential and ability to grow. The doubt still lingers.

One of the biggest challenges I face is balancing my desire to help people with the reality of needing to provide for my family.

I’ve always been passionate about helping others live better lives, but at times, it feels like I’m choosing between doing what I love and generating enough income. There have been many nights when I wondered if I should just focus on scaling the business and leave my deeper purpose behind.

But then I remind myself that purpose and profit don’t have to be mutually exclusive—I just need to find the right approach.

Thinking about starting a family has shifted my entire perspective. I no longer just think about what I want—I think about the kind of life I want to create for my wife and our future children. There was a moment when I sat down with my wife, and we had an honest conversation about our future. It wasn’t just about my business anymore; it was about ensuring that we have financial security, a stable home, and the freedom to raise a family without financial stress.

That conversation lit a fire under me to not only grow my business but to build a life we can be proud of.

Recently, I’ve been reflecting on whether my current business is enough to support my family. I enjoy it, it’s flexible, and it provides good money. But is it scalable? Is it designed to grow?

There’s a sense of urgency now. Things can change quickly, and I can’t just think about myself anymore. We may move to a single-income household for a while, and I need to be prepared for that. I need more consistency in my revenue streams, not just the cycle of selling and serving. While my business offers flexibility, it’s not to the level I want or need for our future.

For the longest time, I resisted the idea of systems because I thought they would restrict my freedom. But recently, I’ve come to realise that systems are the only way to create consistent results.

I remember the stress of launching a program and realising I didn’t have a steady stream of leads coming in. It felt like I was always scrambling, trying to sell while also serving clients.

I knew something had to change. The more I’ve learned about building systems, the more I’ve seen how they can free me up to focus on what I love—helping people—while still growing the business.

In my journey, I’ve been fortunate to have some incredible role models. One of the most influential figures was a coach I worked with early on.

He showed me the power of resilience and how important it is to stay adaptable in business and life. Watching him balance his family life with running a successful business gave me the belief that I could do the same.

I learned that the key is not perfection but progress—taking consistent steps forward, even when it feels like you’re not moving fast enough.

I also struggle with how I see myself. For some reason, I attach shame to the idea of being a personal trainer.

I want to help men live better lives, but I’m not sure if I want to be labelled as just a coach. I love the fitness side of things, but I get stuck in trying to do too much.

As I think about the future, especially with a family in mind, my focus has shifted.

My ideal business would bring in at least $300,000 a year, mainly online, so I have the flexibility to be a present father and supportive husband.

I don’t need to build a legacy business—my legacy is how I show up as a dad, husband, and friend. But to do that, I need financial flexibility, the ability to earn well while still being available.

I picture the future often. I imagine waking up and having the freedom to spend mornings with my kids, taking them to school, and being there for every moment. I see myself working on my business in a way that doesn’t drain me but energises me, knowing that I’m providing for my family without sacrificing the quality time we have together.

That’s the life I’m building, and it’s what drives me to put in the work now—so I can enjoy that balance later.

Looking back, I’m grateful for every step of this journey. Even in the moments when I doubted myself, those experiences were necessary to shape who I am today.

The struggles, the shifts, the confusion—they’ve all contributed to a deeper understanding of what I value most. I’m grateful for the opportunity to grow, both personally and professionally, and I’m thankful for the support system around me that has encouraged me to keep going, even when things got tough.

Here’s what I’ve learned: Resilience isn’t about grinding endlessly—it’s about knowing when to adapt. It’s about taking action that aligns with what matters most.

For me, that’s my family. I want to create something that provides for us, not just financially, but in terms of time, flexibility, and peace of mind.

If you’re in a similar position, questioning whether you’re enough or if you’re doing enough, remember that clarity comes from taking action.

I’ve spent too long second-guessing myself and doubting my ability to grow my business. But now, with the responsibility of a family on the horizon, I’m ready to step up. You can do the same.

If you’re feeling the weight of responsibility, whether it’s for your family, your future, or just yourself, I challenge you to take a step forward today. Maybe it’s time to revisit your priorities or build new systems that allow you to grow.

Whatever it is, don’t wait until you feel ready—start now. Take the action that your future self will thank you for. The journey might be tough, but clarity comes from movement.

Let’s move forward together.