Life Is Short (6 Steps To Get Your Sh!t Together)
Life moves in seasons. Each one feels different, bringing with it a mix of new possibilities and the quiet end of things we once loved. I used to think everything would last forever—that as long as I was on this planet, my relationships, goals, and passions would remain constant.
But now, as I move through my 30s, I see it more clearly. Each season doesn’t just open new doors—it closes others. That’s the bittersweet part of growth. We learn, we change, and we leave behind parts of ourselves to make room for what’s next.
Growing up, life felt timeless. My days were filled with outdoor adventures, climbing trees, playing sports, and letting my imagination run wild.
The only thing that made time move was when my mum would call me inside for dinner or homework.
I wanted to hang on to that freedom forever. But eventually, school got serious, and I had to trade endless play for responsibilities.
That’s when the shift happened—the end of a season where life felt like it could go on forever.
Adolescence hit, and suddenly it wasn’t enough to just play. I had to prove myself. I wasn’t great at communication, but I excelled in sport, and that became my identity.
It worked for a while, but as I grew older, I realised being good at sport wasn’t enough. It didn’t solve the deeper problems, like connecting with people or building real relationships.
Moving to Brisbane for my relationship with Amy forced me to mature fast. It was time to step up, cut out the distractions, and become the man I wanted to be for her.
In my early 20s, I tried everything to figure out what I wanted to do. I felt lost, signing up for university just to impress others, chasing paths that weren’t mine.
But when I founded The Man That Can Project, everything clicked. Coaching men through their struggles helped me solve my own, and for the first time, I felt like I was on the right path.
The pressure didn’t disappear, but it shifted. Now, it was about making this business work—learning everything from sales to marketing because my livelihood depended on it.
My first sold-out workshop in 2020 was a turning point. I realised that what I was building wasn’t just a business—it was my life’s work.
And then, there’s marriage. The most important season of my life so far. It hasn’t always been easy—especially now, living abroad, taking financial hits, and navigating life’s uncertainties.
But Amy and I are committed to chasing our dreams together. We support each other through the highs and lows because we know that what we’re building now will shape our future as a family.
Life is short, and the seasons pass quickly.
You can’t control how fast they come or go, but you can make sure you’re ready for each one.
Here are 6 steps I took to get my sh!t together and live the life I want—regardless of the season I’m in.
1. Embrace Discomfort (And Make It a Habit)
The most important lessons come from discomfort. Whether it was starting my network marketing career without any sales experience or running 2 marathons in 2 days, discomfort was the catalyst for growth. I realised that discomfort is temporary, but the benefits are lasting.
Actionable Step: Choose discomfort regularly. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or professional, start by setting a goal that scares you. Simplify the process in your mind and focus on the outcome, because everything else is just noise.
2. Push Through Even When You Want to Quit
When I started in network marketing, I didn’t have the option to quit. Id borrowed $600 from my mum to start. I didn’t know how to meet new people, and it was uncomfortable being an introvert. But the thought of failure scared me more than discomfort. Pushing through opened up opportunities I never imagined, and those skills now fuel my business.
Actionable Step: When you’re tempted to quit, ask yourself: what’s worse—temporary discomfort or long-term regret? Focus on the next step, not the whole journey, and keep moving forward.
3. Own Your Authenticity
In 2022, I stopped trying to fit into other people’s definitions of success. I realised I’m a performance coach who loves fitness, and that’s okay. Living for yourself doesn’t mean you’re selfish—it means you’re showing up as the best version of yourself for others.
Actionable Step: Take time to reflect on what you truly want, not what you think you should want. Stop chasing other people’s expectations and make decisions that light you up. The people who matter will support you.
4. Don’t Overthink Decisions—Take Action
When I make decisions, I don’t overthink. I believe in trying new things, learning from failures, and creating experiences that will one day become stories worth telling. Whether it was moving to the US or launching a new business, the worst thing you can do is nothing.
Actionable Step: Break decision-making down into a simple process:
Identify the decision.
Will you enjoy it?
What skills or value will it bring?
Assess the impact and make a choice.
Don’t forget, almost everything is changeable—except death and taxes.
5. Maintain Relationships by Involving Others in Your Goals
Balancing ambitious goals with relationships isn’t easy, but it’s possible when both parties buy into each other’s success. My wife, Amy, and I have supported each other financially, emotionally, and through shared challenges. We involve each other in our goals, and that keeps us moving forward as a team.
Actionable Step: Regularly communicate with your partner or close friends about your goals and theirs. Find ways to support each other’s success, even if you aren’t directly involved. Success is sweeter when shared.
6. Prioritise Health No Matter How Busy You Are
Building a business or chasing ambitious goals shouldn’t mean sacrificing your health. I’ve made mental and physical fitness non-negotiables in my daily routine. It’s not something I have to do; it’s something I’m grateful to do. Without it, everything else falls apart.
Actionable Step: Make health a habit, not a choice. Start your day by training your mind and body so that no matter what the day throws at you, you’ve already invested in yourself. During stressful times, double down on "me time" to stay grounded and strong.
Life is short, and the seasons pass quickly. Whether you’re in a season of growth, struggle, or transition, you can take steps to take control. These 6 steps helped me get my sh!t together, and I believe they can help you too.
Are you ready to take the first step?
Cheers
Lachlan